Since reading C.L. Wilson's Lord of the Fading Lands, I've been thinking about fantasy romance. In my teens I read fantasy with central romances, and lately I've read romances set in fantasy worlds. This year Fading Lands rocketed up the USA Today list; obviously it's a successful combination of genres.
I asked a male friend, an avid fantasy reader, whether he sees more romance--or more interesting female roles--in fantasy these days. His response took me down a path I'd never thought about:
If you want to know how fantasy is changing look at roleplaying games (RPG). Back when I started Dungeons & Dragons it was the stereotypical teenage dorks in a basement. We didn't know jack about relationships....(I'm not a gamer, so my edits may have introduced some nonsense. He's a detail guy, so I simplified greatly.)
You could barter but you never really developed relationships. There literally weren't rules for how characters could have sex. You could roll a 6 and do some magic or a 2 and get killed but you couldn't have sex....
These days it's more realistic. A lot of those guys if they're still into it write their own games.... You can get rules for sex now but mostly teenage boys are into that.... I don't play the same way with my wife sitting there. Even if she wasn't there I know about real sex now so I wouldn't waste a good roll ripping off some character's clothes. I guess that makes me officially old.
D&D sex guides
A quick google confirms that there is now a rule book for including sexual elements in D&D:The first chapter... provides an overview of various facets of sex such as humor, sexual orientation, fetishes, prostitution, pornography, commitment and infidelity, chastity, pregnancy....One female dungeon master has written a lengthy guidance on incorporating lust and full-fledged romance into Dungeons and Dragons:
New uses for existing skills include Appraising a potential partner, Bluffing to connect with someone, Knowledge about various topics, Perform (sexual techniques).... New feats include... Disarming Looks, Limber....
The romance that has dominated so many of our fairy tales can come to life in a roleplaying game and it can expand roleplaying options exponentially. Characters in D&D can fall in love..., get married, have trysts and children. One of the ways that a DM defines their game is by deciding how much love and sex they'll allow....She goes on to discuss the implications of race and class for divorce (the long-lived elves might not expect faithfulness over hundreds of years), the use of magic spells to enhance sex, and other topics.
There are very few references to sex in any of the new mainstream D&D books. There is an out of the way reference in the Forgotten Realms setting book (cassil root and narrowroot are herbs which can be used as birth control for limited periods of time.) There is some mention of prostitution in the Book of Vile Darkness. Every now and then mating habits and gestation are discussed in regard to the many different races and creatures....
Video: D&D fantasy romance
My googling also turned up several funny videos by Youtuber FearofGirls, depicting two RPG players' attempts to introduce romance into their game.In Episode 1, we meet Elite Game Master Doug and his best friend Raymond (a.k.a. the barbarian Krunk). These two have long since abandoned the commercially available games to create their own. Doug says his games have "themes and subject matter [sex and gore] which, quite frankly, would simply be too strong for your hobbyist gamer". (Note that "hobbyist" is an epithet.)
Here's a short outtake of Doug and Raymond's attempts to add fantasy girls and fantasy sex to the game:
At the end of Episode 1, Doug and Raymond are intrigued with the idea of playing against real girls. In Episode 2 the girls arrive and the mayhem takes a new turn:
I like the blend of sincerity and mockery, and the way the budding-romance subplot shapes the game as the game shapes the romance. The romance, of course, turns out to be pure fantasy, but the final plot twists make some clever points. Dangerously Adorable Productions seem to know their subject awfully well ;)
All of Episode 1, and many more outtakes, are on the FearofGirls Youtube page.






























